Friendships Uncovered

 

 A wise woman named Mindy Lahiri once said, “A best friend isn’t a person, it’s a tier.” It’s actually one of six tiers, if you ask Mobinah Ahmad ,the young woman whose detailed theory on the many phases of friendship is now going viral.

It’s been said that there are three types of friendships in life; Reason, Season, and Lifetime.

My mother always told me each one of my friends holds a different purpose in my life and brings a different type of friendship to the table. Maybe they are meant to stay forever or only for a short period of time, but either way, they brought their own uniqueness into my life.

As we go through different stages in life, friends come and go; our best friends change, we change, and as well as them entering and exiting for a reason, we do the same in other peoples' lives.

Some may have one single purpose in our lives and then move along after they fulfilled whatever that purpose was; they came for a reason and a season. 

Some friends may be a solitary season. Their presence was important in the moment, but seasons change and people change. We come to realize that even though the friendship may have been good, it was fleeting and it ended for a reason.

We can be appreciative of these friendships, as every person that comes into our lives can bring a new perspective on life that we may have never seen or considered otherwise. These friendships can help us grow and help shape the type of friends we become and the qualities we look for in future friends because we learn from them in both positive and negative ways.

Many say people come into our lives for a reason and they leave our lives for a reason, possibly unbeknownst to us, but they satisfied what we needed from the friendship in that moment. Even though their presence was so important at that time, it no longer holds the same significance. The memories can of course be remembered forever and the many things we learned engrained in our minds, but there comes a time when letting go and moving on is necessary; their reason was met and their season ended.

Then, there are the lifetime friends. A lifetime is a long time, but that is why they are the lifetime friends. They are the friends who are family and the people who are always there. They are also the friends we can lose touch with for months on end, yet they are still the same best friend the next time we see them. They are the friends that are there for the long-haul, the few that are dedicating their time to a lifelong friendship. They are the friends with no boundaries because our truest self is the only person they know.We all might look for something different in a lifet

 Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is,

you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

 

  

So today my thrivers, realize that we have all types of  friends in our life.  Some will stay forever and be lifetime friends.  And others will live on in our hearts forever, teaching us great lessons and making us grateful that our paths crossed, even after their reason or season has passed.-

MUTHONI WACHIRA