A Good friend Is Like a Good Pair of Shoes, What is in your closet?

Women have an affinity for shoes more than men do most of the time. As I’ve gotten older I find that I’m one of those women who pays attention to what my feet wear when I leave the house.

I don't know why this analogy came to my mind the other day, but I think friends are like a pair of shoes.

They come new and sparkly, shining their personality and ready to be there at your beck and call. You are the same way in return. You appreciate their new and friendly personality, thinking your friendship will never be the same. You cherish the shoes, you took time to save up for the shoes, you appreciate the shoes, and maybe the shoes become a wonderful friend.

 I have heard it said that DIAMONDS  are a girl’s best friend. While I can’t knock the allure of cut clarity, color and carats, I can and WILL say that my heart sides with a deeper Marilyn Monroe quote: “Give a girl the right pair of shoes, and she can conquer the world!”

There are two things that a woman can never possibly have too many of…really great girlfriends and shoes, of course. In my book, shoes are just like friends; they support you or take you down. I promise that every “friend” you have can be described in terms of shoes, and with that, ladies, I submit that every now and again it’s simply good business to do friend-inventory.

But then...the shoes start getting worn out or you have had the shoes for a long time. Either the friendship changes, the shoes grow old, or new and bright shoes come along. Are you going to hold on to your old shoes?

 I try to the best I can, because sometimes those shoes are my favorite. They are reliable and even though they don't always sparkle and shine, they still are my best shoes. I still love them just the same. I still invest in them to keep them happy and try to be there for them.

However, I have found that other shoes in return may want new sparkly shoes when you hit your low point. They aren't there for you...they vanish all of a sudden, don't stick around when you need advice, clam up and don't tell you what's wrong. Or, they get mad at you over silly things. I don't understand why this happens. Why don't shoes want to stick with other shoes that are true and reliable?

But maybe, just maybe...there a few jems that stick around through thick and thin. They stick with their favorite shoes. These shoes I am proud to call my friends, because even though these shoes may be worn and faded, they are lasting and loyal. They are always there when you need them. You are there for them in return.

Just like shoes, I think friendship is a two way street. You wouldn't go walking around with just one shoe, right? Well, that is why you need both shoes. Both shoes walk together, talk together, and help support each other. This makes sense because if something is wrong with one shoe...then you help get the other shoe fixed. Otherwise, friendship is difficult. Friendship is hard. And friendship requires work.

All I know is, no matter the mistakes I have made, no matter how hard I try to keep my favorite shoes around, some may not want to stick around in return. I guess I just need to be at peace with that. I guess I need to learn that I can only do my best and the rest is up to those reliable shoes that I once had. I just get tired of finding new shoes when I love my reliable shoes so much.

Why do the reliable shoes get up and leave when I have been a faithful friend? I know they may be going through something hard sometimes, but if only they would reach out to a helping hand!

Lately I have found that I have a lot of shoes in my life. Shoes that are peppy, happy, down, sad, mad, unloving, selfish, polished, perfectionists, loyal, faithful, you name it. Now...I realize that all friendships last if you make the effort. But sometimes I don't understand that just when you want to polish your shoes...they break off and leave. They don't want to stick around.


Your friends are the people you go to when you’re in need of anything. Whether it’s a shoulder to lean on or someone to just have a good time with, you need a friends. Didn’t we learn anything from the Spice Girls? Friendship never ends.

I’ve also had friendships that lasted only a season. They looked great and felt good at the time, but after a while they wore out, started to rub the wrong way, got lost or just felt less comfy. It can be hard to know when the time has come to let someone else move into the space this friendship has filled, and I have certainly held on to friends and shoes way past their intended season, occasionally inflicting unnecessary pain on myself or someone else.

And we can’t forget the well-worn flip flops we throw on to get the mail or run up to the post office. Those friends who are a part of our daily life; the ones we speak to nearly every day, sharing the trials and triumphs-big and small. It is easy to take them for granted even though they usually offer the most reliability and the biggest kick!

I’m so blessed that the closet of my life is filled with friends that bring color, style and comfort to me every day. How about you—what kind of friend are you? Are there “shoes” you need to donate to someone else, some that need a little extra attention (maybe a good shine), or are you attracted to a new pair but haven’t really tried them on yet?

Ladies and gentlemen , you need new shoes  don’t be afraid to try a few on for size!  Don’t get cold feet; there is a world full of fabulous shoes just waiting for you.

I am thankful for my closest and dearest shoes. I will forever love them, whatever their decisions in life may be and whatever they are going through. I do have a few shoes that love me for who I am and know that I try my hardest to be there for them in return.

Like I said, friends are like a pair of shoes. In the end...which shoes will you be there for? Will you forgive? Will you love deeper, trust more, and hope more? I will certainly try even though it is hard when the trust is broken. I hope you will too.

Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable? Proverbs 20:6

YOU KNOW ME AS MUTHONI WACHIRA, THE WORLD CALLS ME GAMECHANGER 

LOVE AND BLESSINGS :)