THE POWER OF DEFINING YOURSELF

Society dictates the morals a person needs to follow to be considered part of society - and society punishes and removes those that decide not to conform. Decisions are the key. It is a person's actions that define the person. 

In the pursuit of happiness through career, wealth, family and friends we often forget to focus on enriching ourselves with teachings of great men, one of them could be you! It’s not only about comprehending but applying these teachings in our daily life. A new thought can change the whole outlook of life.

As a human being, each one of us is imbibed with the ability of achieving greatness. We have the upper hand over other living beings as we transfer our knowledge to next generation. With the immense web of knowledge, we need to develop and inculcate the habit of enriching ourselves as when we will be ready, we will realize the reason for us to be here.

 It’s typical that cultural norms breed generalized perceptions but when one does not “fit the mold” …what do you do? How do you combat the alienation you face? What do you do when your definition of you and society’s definition of you do not match?

Have a look around, everyone is so beautiful. And when you think of yourself, you’ll think: “Yeah, but…”Have you ever looked at someone and thought: “Wow, that is the ugliest person in the whole world?” If you have, you might want to do a little self assessment, but the majority of us have never really thought that of someone, so why on Earth do we think that of ourselves?

 Identity

What does it mean to you? How would you choose to identify yourself? Is it the name that you carry? Where you are from? Your Social media platforms? Your friends? Typical questions asked is the meaning your name, what your star sign is. Basic stuff.

Life is about who we choose to be, the purpose of the life we choose to live and where we want to go. But who am I anyway? What defines me?I am who I am because of who we are as a society.For a long time I thought that my outer appearance defined who I was. I remember getting ready in the morning and looking in the mirror, and wishing that things would be different.

My life was put into my hands, just like your life is put into yours. You are the person in the driver seat of your life, you are in control and you get to decide what it is that defines you. You decide if your life goes on the right path or the bad path. It can be really hard to know what those things are. But you are in control.

When someone says something negative or hateful about you, life is still in your hands, you can choose to make this really bad or you can choose to make this really good. You can let those comments and things define you, or you can choose to be happier. 

You can complain about those things and let it define you, or you can let your goals and your success and your accomplishments define you.Not external opinions, or gossip, or your appearance or anything. But you.The best way to get back at people and your own negative thoughts about yourself, is to turn them around and use them as a ladder to climb up and reach your goals.

"How you choose to define yourself will have a great impact on how people perceive you and, ultimately, the actions that you take."

Rather than listening to outside noise and seeing your uniqueness as a contradiction, understand that you are a beautiful especial combination and welcome the fact willingly that in a world of carbon copies you stand out.Accept the challenge of being novel and “lean in” to your identity confidently and unapologetic-ally. When you are being told who you should be, find the strength to show who you are

We are the most agile and fittest to have being survived thousands of years irrespective of numerous natural calamities. So considering this, while thinking of our self as a definite being, we are changing the whole concept of being a living creature with brain; instead, we should change the whole concept and try to develop new interests and learning new habits which will develop you as a greater being than what you were yesterday.

 Never constrict yourself as a particular person, be open to ideas and new methods to be applied in your daily life. The very phrase “I am not that kind of person” means you are not free to change and adapt, which should not be so.

Always invite and welcome new ideas and thoughts. Never restrain yourself with these thoughts. Learn new things, this will not only make you more confident but will also produce a versatile and updated version of you.

This will also help you in having productive conversation with people which in result will make you feel better about yourself, which will give you insight of how different people think. As a result an updated version of you will be sculptured.

But ignorance is not bliss in this case as there is a constant needs to keep working on all the information and knowledge you have. “Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude towards it, for that determines our success and failure”.

To the kids who dread going to school, but still love to learn. To the kids who are too shy to participate in class, but have ideas worth sharing. To the kids who would rather explore nature for themselves than read about it in a text book.

To the students who struggle in the classroom, but excel in athletics. To the aspiring musician who is called foolish for following his dreams instead of pursuing a real career. This article is to express my respect and admiration for you. I know that you are capable of leading a happy and fulfilling life doing what you love, even if it doesnt measure up to societys standards. in the grand scheme of things, your grades are only a small factor in your life, and do not define you as a person

So who wins?Who gets to define you? “Whichever you choose to believe.”The power of defining yourself lies within you. So who will you give your power to? 

We have to do the hard, messy, challenging work within ourselves to interpret and embody our definition. Your definition becomes the mission statement you live by for the rest of your life.When you truly embrace who you are and all of the worlds that you come from, when you bring those sensibilities to a previously closed off world, you move society forward; because when you move into other worlds, you impact people, and when people change, then society has to as well. Choose the labels which work best for you, and you'll become a more well-rounded individual.

So, reader, dream big. Be a little crazy. Do things other people wouldn't dare to do. It is by doing those things that one truly finds his individuality. I urge you again to find who you are in this world, not by being what you are supposed to be, but by being what no one ever thought you would.

  

You need to start calling yourself a different name. So you decide. What defines you?

To my One And Only Small brother, Charles Kagwaini, You can be anything You want to Be..Keep Going

XOXO

Muthoni Wachira  :)