ELEVATION REQUIRES SEPARATION

There are some things and some people that you just cannot fight to hold on to any longer. There are certain habits, certain things in life, certain individuals that if you keep chasing after them – they will ultimately destroy you.

Now I do not know about you – but as for me re-evaluation is always a good thing. Everybody has to grow at some point, and as you grow, those who you once held close to your heart may choose to grow in a different direction to you. This is something that I have experienced first hand – especially when I became saved. That is just the way it goes. My question to you is who do you call your friends?

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. – Proverbs 13:20

It is quite simple, elevation requires separation. As you transform into who God has called you to be, you will begin to realise that some people are not the best company for you to keep. It is always good to check yourself and who you keep around you, and ask yourself ‘do I need to separate from this person?’ Why you ask? Let me tell you, it is simple:

Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” – 1 Corinthians 15:33

I used to make excuses as to why I could not separate from someone, such excuses were ‘oh but I’ve known them for such a long time,’ or ‘but we practically, basically, like grew up together.’ We like to hold on to certain ‘friendships’ simply because we have known someone for a ‘long time.’ This does not run with me anymore though. If we do not uplift one another, if you are not as focused as I am and if your presence does not add value to my life and edify me (and vice versa), then to be brutally honest that is not a friendship.  Life is about seasons. There people who will be with you for a longer time... But yet again, there those who we choose to love from a distance.

Do not let people hold you back from reaching your goals. I say this because time is so precious and so valuable – time is something that once it is gone – you cannot get back. Therefore, how you spend your time and who you spend it with are two very important things to consider. Life is like security doors, if you do not close the one in front of you, the one in front will not open (viceversa)

Have you ever heard the saying ‘birds of the same feather flock together.’ I am simply saying that we need to move with people who are like-minded and people who are striving to be the best they can be – because at the end of the day we will be inclined to do the things our friends are doing. Now I am not saying that you should ‘burn bridges’ and ‘cut people off’ and be rude about it. No, just distance yourself, create a clear boundary

 I strongly believe that if somebody is meant to be in your life, then they will be there. As I said in my previous post, God will place the right people in your life. These are people who will motivate you, encourage you, correct you, laugh and cry with you, they will be there through the good times and the bad times and most importantly you will grow together and learn from one another!

The same thing goes with relationships, and also habits that do not make you a better person and are harmful to your spirit. It also goes to things that distract you from spending time with God. Let them go.

Elevation may require separation. It may be difficult at first and it may even seem like you are losing out but ultimately you gain more than you can ever imagine! You are free to reach your full potential.

“Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are.”

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Post Inspiration : Anita Nderu, Avril Nyambura, Caroline Mutoko, Janet Mbugua.